Ah, yes. The Alpha Male, the one every one wants to be. The man, the mac, the stud, the “bad boy”. The one all the women want and all the men admire, respect, and envy.
Let’s get to it.
Here’s the thing, Bad boys are not Alpha males.
Let me say that again . . .
Bad boys are not Alpha males. Those two are very different types of people.
Bad boys are usually guys who have been hurt by women (if we’re talking about relationships) or have experienced some trauma or deep pain that has changed their perception of reality, opening them up to the harsh truths of the world. Facing those truths, these once naive men, or women, change to adapt to the reality they now face and learn how to win.
An Alpha Male, is different in this regard.
The Alpha Male is someone who hasn’t necessarily been hurt or has gone through some pain. The Alpha Male is usually someone who is born and raised to have a backbone, to be authentic, true to themselves and to not care what people think of them. The Alpha Male isn’t someone who takes life personally or gets easily offended when things don’t go their way. An Alpha Male recognizes that the world is a cold and unforgiving place, and doesn’t need to go through unnecessary pain to adapt and learn how to win.
The Alpha Male simply does.
Being an Alpha Male isn’t predicated on getting laid left and right; in fact, being Alpha has nothing to do with women and relationships at all. It is a mindset. It is how one looks at themselves. Alpha’s tend to know, usually subconsciously, that they can achieve anything they want to through taking action. Alpha’s are mostly doers, not thinkers. However, an Alpha can develop the capacity to think amongst the most intelligent of people.
A Bad boy is just someone who’s trying to get laid, and, through dealing with women and getting chewed up and spat out, learned that the only way to get what he wanted was to treat them like crap and not give a fuck about whether they stay or go, as they will always go.
The term “Bad boy” only refers to women, sex, and relationships. Alpha applies to all aspects of life as it is a mindset and not a persona adopted as a means to a particular end.
The Alpha Male is his own man, he is dominant, he’s at the top of the food chain. He gets first dibs on any and everything he touches. He’s a leader but will follow only if necessary, and, while doing so work to reestablish his leadership position. The Alpha is tenacious, relentless, ruthless in how he goes about getting what he wants. He outworks, out-hustles, out-matches any and everyone when it comes to the things that matter to him.
Again, Alpha is a mindset. “Bad boy” is a persona.
The difference? A persona is the mask you take off after being at work all day, when you come home, relax, and be the lazy slob you really are opposed to the neat, clean, and presentable individual people perceive you as. Mindset is how you think daily, what you truly believe about yourself. You move like a leader. You walk and talk with authority. You exude confidence and dominance in all aspects of life. How you are at home, work, birthdays, weddings, funerals, etc. is the same. Nothing changes.
The Alpha takes no shit. The Alpha recognizes game in business, sex, relationships, women, sales, etc. The Alpha never submits to wrongdoing and evil. The Alpha has strong morals and principles. The Alpha helps those in need but always ensures he’s taken care of first. The Alpha never takes advantage of people nor does the Alpha get taken advantage of.
The Alpha is strong. The Alpha is dominant. And, most importantly, the Alpha is free.
Alright, that’s my spiel. Til next week. . .